A large portion of the Millennial generation is either starting a career or about to start. We already have a terrible reputation. These “professionals” are making that reputation even worse. If you are a one of the culprits listed below, just stop. Get it together. You’re making all of us look bad.
1. The girl who gets ready every morning at her desk
You’re showing your boss you are too lazy to come prepared for work. You’re showing your boss you don’t take your job or responsibilities seriously and would rather do your makeup than actual work. You’re wasting time you should be doing something productive. You’re just unprofessional and don’t take your career seriously.
2. The girl who wears a skin-tight, short dress to work/work functions.
Really… if you would wear a dress to a club or similar, it should never make an appearance in the workplace or at a work function. It’s not appropriate. It’s trashy. Less is not more (Many of you could apply this in your everyday dress as well). Work dresses and skirts should be knee-length. Let’s keep it classy, not trashy ladies.
3. The girl with her cleavage showing.
Ew. See above on inappropriate work classness. Just stop.
3. The Millennial who butchers grammar.
When someone asks you how you’re doing, you’re never “good.” You’re well. Have you read the inside of a book? Did you go to highschool? When a customer or boss asks you a question, you should never respond “yup” or “yeah.” Do you know how to speak like a professional?
4. The girl who has personal conversations with her partner/spouse/mom/friend in the middle of the office.
First, this is not appropriate. No one wants to hear about your drama. Do you have any shame? You should be embarassed.
5. The guy/girl who cannot figure out anything on their own.
They ask for everything. They seem to be lacking resourcefullness or are just lazy.
6. The guy/girl who always shows up hungover, smelling like booze, looking desheveled and functioning at a 0 MPH pace.
7. The guy/girl who can never get to work/meetings on time.
Hey! Here’s a tip – buy a watch!
8. The guy/girl who lies about why they can’t come into work.
9. The guy/girl who can never get their job done or finish a project.
10. The guy/girl who is too busy tweeting, pinteresting or snapchatting during meetings to know what the heck is going on.
11. The completely uninformed idiot.
They have no idea what is going on in the world if it doesn’t happen on Game of Thrones or Real Housewives of (insert trash TV here) or any other reality show. They talk in stereotypes and generalities. They have such a limited exposure and understanding of the world. They have never heard of CNN. They haven’t opened a book since their sophomore year of highschool or for a few, college.
12. The guy that falls asleep in meetings, at his desk or anywhere really.
Did you really just fall asleep in a group meeting with your CEO?!
13. The Millennial who simply did their job and wants praise from the whole office.
They didn’t go above and beyond. They didn’t more than was asked. They just got the report ran and delivered on time.
14. The one who dresses like their about to Netflix and Chill.
Lululemon leggings, sweat pants and hoodies are apparently all they own.
15. The person who talks like a complete douchebag.
Nothing comes out of their mouth other than making fun of people, working out, eating food, getting drunk and hooking up. They’re 25-32, nothing to show for themselves, living with someone (their parents, a roommate or couch surfing), all they do is party and they don’t understand why they can’t find a suitable partner.
Get it together people.
(Originally posted by me for Odyssey Online.)
The day after the election, I was seeing and feeling so much negativity everywhere I looked. I hopped in my car to run an errand and drove past a homeless man. With all of the hate going on in the world right now, I just felt like I needed to extend kindness to this man. Seeing a homeless person in Salt Lake City is not rare, we have a very fast-growing homeless problem. This man was different. When I passed him, he wasn’t begging or asking for anything. He also had a sweet little sidekick, a small black dog. I watched him walk down the street for a bit to get a sense of him. I pulled up alongside him and rolled down my window. I asked if I could buy him a hamburger. He looked surprised but happy and said, “Oh, yes, sure you could buy me a burger.” I asked him if he wanted fries. He looked surprised and said, “Only if you’re okay with that.” I pointed to a busy parking lot alongside the restaurant and told him to meet me there. He smiled and said okay.
I pulled into In-N-Out. I bought him a hamburger meal with a coke. It was a mere $6 and change. I pulled around to the parking lot where he was sitting on the curb. I don’t think he expected me to get out and hand it to him and he definitely didn’t expect me to shake his hand and talk to him.
I introduced myself and he followed. His name was Benjamin. I reached down to pet his sweet dog and he told me her name was DeeDee. I started making conversation with him. He told me he’s had his dog for 3 years. I pointed out how well behaved she was and he smiled and said, “Yes, she is a good dog.” He told me he was born in Spokane, Washington but moved all over through the years. He became homeless in 2009 when he was laid off. He’s tried to pick up jobs here and there but nothing ever sticks. He just came to Salt Lake City from Arizona.
Typically, people have general assumptions about the homeless population. They think they are on drugs or dealing with mental issues. They may be afraid of them. They may make fun of them. They make reject them. Benjamin was different. His face was worn by the sun but he had very kind eyes. He was articulate and well-spoken. He was polite. He had no signs of being on drugs — he was very alert and sharp. We spent a few minutes chatting and I told him I was a writer. I asked if I could take his and DeeDee’s photo with my camera. He smiled. I’m assuming he hasn’t had his picture taken in a long time. I went to my car and came back with my camera. He sat and posed for the photo with DeeDee. We exchanged a little more small talk then I shook his hand and wished him well.
My exchange with Benjamin left me feeling a little better about the world. The ability to reach out and connect with someone during such a hate-filled time was good for my soul and I hope it was good for his. I took away three main lessons that transcend us all, especially in this time of chaos, anger and hate.
1. We judge and/or are scared of that which we’re unfamiliar
All too often, we as a people, look at others who are different than us and we judge them or we feel fear. Often that fear is wrongly placed because of misguided assumptions. We make assumptions and let those assumptions fuel our emotions before we even get to know the person. Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we assumed less and took the time to know more?
2. We all seek love/companionship
DeeDee is that bit of companionship to Benjamin in this stage of his life. My hope is that at some point, his life will allow him to have other love and companionship but for now, at least they have each other. This is relevant for all people. Whether it’s an elderly man in a nursing home, a struggling college kid, whoever. We all need to feel love and companionship, otherwise, we feel very alone in this great big world. Reach out to someone. Be their friend. Give them a sense of companionship.
3. We all want to be seen and respected
Benjamin probably hasn’t been looked at as an equal in a long time. He was shy and his behavior showed how he’s probably been treated in recent days and months. Don’t we all want someone to take the time to understand us? Don’t we all want to be respected? Don’t we all want to be seen as an equal?
My time with Benjamin reminded me that our differences make this world beautiful but our commonality makes us thrive. We all have much more in common than we realize. Take a moment and connect with someone you otherwise would make assumptions about. You might find you have more in common than you think and you’ll help make this world a better place a tiny step at a time.
(Originally posted on Odyssey Online)
(This was originally posted on Odyssey Online)
You’re either jumping for joy or having a nervous breakdown. Take a breath. Count to 10. Here’s how to not be a terrible American.
The final count is in and Trump won. You are either elated or beside yourself. As we move on from election day to the next four years, let’s think about the way to be the best Americans we can be. Lashing out at the opposition, spreading hatred and further dividing our country is not going to help you, me or our country.
I had a chance to spend a little time with Mindy Tucker Fletcher recently. She was George W. Bush’s press secretary during his initial race to become president and then returned to help him win his second term. She made a very poignant comment to me. She said, “People who have never met him say horrible things about him. They talk about their hate for him and they have never met him. I worked alongside him. I know what a good person he is.” She posed how can we say such terrible things about people we don’t truly know. I hope as we go forward, we work on developing our rhetoric and looking at the important issues rather than tearing people apart on a personal level.
Here are some things to keep in mind as you make the transition and not be a totally miserable person to others.
1. Get involved locally.
If you aren’t aware, local leaders have more of an influence over your life than the president. Make sure your local leaders are working to bring about the kind of change you want to see. Find an organization to get plugged into like Junior Achievement, Boys and Girls Club, etc. Get involved in local politics – join a committee, run for an office. Instead of complaining about what will come about in our country, help influence the future it in a positive way.
2. Know your WHY.
Arguing for arguing sake is one of the most idiotic things you can do. In Aristotle’s era, arguing was known as rhetoric and it was purposeful. Not only were they educated on the topics they were discussing (fully educated — they didn’t just read a partisan publication, they did research) but they had a reason for initiating the conversation. They wanted to have an open dialogue. They wanted to see the other person’s argument. The goal is not to agree but to reach a consensus. Have a core set of values, have an intention, have the education on the topic and have the grace to discuss it respectfully. Rhetoric should not be about winning. If you are arguing to win, you’re doing it wrong.
3. Be logical.
I have read some of the most asinine comments during this election. The most illogical, untrue comments and arguments have ensued typically on the internet for all to see. Look up fallacies. All types of fallacies. Deflecting an argument with an unrelated argument just makes you look dumb and doesn’t help your discussion. Know what you’re talking about. Stay focused on what you’re trying to say in a logical way.
4. Respect each other.
This might be shocking but you can still respect someone even if you don’t agree with them. Degrading someone personally for their beliefs is just about the lowest form of unintelligence. Even if you don’t agree on a political stance, you can still agree to love and respect one another. I have differing opinions of views from many of my friends and family but that does not mean I will treat them any differently. It is the USA. We were founded on a principle of freedom from oppression, freedom of speech and freedom of choice. If you are respectful when discussing your opinions, it is far more likely that the person on the other end will be open to at least hearing what you have to say. Disrespectfully forcing an opinion on someone doesn’t work. Shocking again, I know. Respect each other. Do your part to bring this country together, otherwise you are becoming part of the problem.
The decision is done. There are positive ways to contribute to society. Huffing, puffing and blowing the house down aren’t it. It’s also not the end of the world as much as you’d like to say it is. Thankfully, we have checks and balances in our government to keep things somewhat functional. Take a breath. It will all be okay.
(Originally Posted as an article for The Odyssey Online)
Millennials are the biggest generation. We have the biggest responsibility to enact change.
One day after the world watched the horrifying shooting involving the attack on Dallas PD, I was scheduled to meet one of my great friends, Paul in Dallas for the weekend. With everything going on, we decided to play it safe and hang out in Ft. Worth the first night. That evening we went to a cool lounge bar. As we were handing the bouncer our ID’s, there was a white cop standing there, probably in his late twenties. Paul is a young black man around the same age. I couldn’t help but look back at the unspoken tension of the situation. Once we got inside the bar and had a drink, I asked Paul if it was uncomfortable given the recent events. He acknowledged he wondered what the officer was thinking of him or if he saw him as a threat. We ran into a few police officers that night and each time, Paul went over quickly and shook their hand or said something kind to them in solidarity.
If you know Paul, you know that he’s a well-dressed, well-spoken, well-educated VP for a financial institution. He is a Christian man. He is open-minded. He and I frequently discuss various world-happenings and we do so in a very respectful open dialogue. Even when we disagree with each other, we listen to the other’s viewpoint. I have an immense amount for respect for him as a person. He is a great role model and friend. I can’t help but feel a bit of disgust for the people who judge Paul or other black people solely on the color of their skin. I also can’t help but feel immense frustration when I see each side of the fence screaming at the other on social media. None of us are any better than the other. We are all people trying to figure out how to best get through life.
People scream louder because they don’t feel heard. Regardless of whether it’s a social movement, political cause or just plain fighting, people want to be heard and understood. They want their beliefs and their fears acknowledged and understood. Even more, it’s also a person’s own insecurities or lack of knowledge that has them lashing out at others. People are driven by insecurities but also by the fear that comes with the unfamiliar.
Recently, at the VMA’s, Alicia Keys showed up bare-faced to continue her #NoMakeup movement. Women, can you imagine, going out and facing hundreds of cameras without a drop of makeup on? Talk about courage. In a world riddled with body shaming and insecurities she was doing something positive. She was taking a stand and showing women and girls that who they are is beautiful without putting on a mask. She was sending a message for women to be proud of who they are and their natural beauty. With girls and guys developing eating disorders, getting injections and worse, how refreshing to see a positive role model. Yet, the ugliness still reared it’s nasty head. Immediately, social media trolls were attacking her, making fun of her, bashing her. So much hatred and ugliness for something so positive.
The LA Times just published an article declaring we are in a time of “Blunt discrimination by police and crisis levels of racism.” Crisis levels of racism. Let that sink in. Crisis levels of racism. For a country who has made great civil strides we are quickly backsliding. It’s a shame.
Whether it’s racism, social issues, feminism issues or political issues there seems to be a trend. People are speaking just to hear themselves. People are spewing hatred. People are just being mean. They are not seeking to understand the other person. They aren’t seeking to understand.
Did you know the Millennial Generation is cited in a study by Goldman Sachs as being the largest generation, even larger than the Baby Boomers. Millennials are cited as having 92M whereas Baby Boomers had 77M. There are different gauges but Time Magazine says Millennials are anyone born between 1980-1995 while others say 1980-2000.
Here are a few Millennial stats for you:
1. 50% of Millennials consider themselves politically unaffiliated.
2. As of 2012, only 19% of Millennials say that others can be trusted.
3. Millennials have the highest number of Facebook friends.
4. 20% of Millennials have at least 1 immigrant parent.
5. Millennials have less faith in religious organizations
The Goldman Sachs article says that Millennials will have a huge impact on the economy as they transition into their peak buying years. What about their huge impact on the world? What legacy are we leaving behind? How are we going to be the change?
Is it any surprise that the majority of the keyboard screamers on social media are Millennials? What are we fighting for? To prove we’re right? To prove our view is the only view?
Did you know, less than 100 years ago men didn’t think women should have the right to vote. Did you know just over 200 years ago Native American’s were forced out of their homes and land because the white man moved here and thought he was entitled to it? How about slavery? It really wasn’t that long ago the white man thought it was ok to have slaves. At the time of all of these events, people thought their way was the only way. Today, it is crazy to think a person can own another person as a slave. It is crazy to think to women were not equals to men and didn’t deserve to vote. Yet here we are in 2016 still fighting over equality and rights. We think we have the right to tell immigrants to leave or ban them from entering.
Newsflash – everyone other then Native Americans are immigrants. America was founded on the idea of escaping persecution and have freedom, justice and liberty for ALL. Not some. Not those who all look a certain way. ALL. Yet here we are, still banging out words on a keyboard spreading hate and anger. Screaming to be heard.
Millennials are known for being entitled and lazy. They are also known for being media aware, realistic, positive, tech-savvy, smart and skilled.
We have hundreds of years of history to show us what fighting solves – nothing. We have history showing us what oppression to any person does. We have history there as a teacher yet we keep looking past it because we are too stubborn. We have the technology at our fingertips to initiate and come together all across the world. We have the power we to choose positive words over hatred and negativity. We have the power to dig in and look at the tough issues and work towards solutions.
The Baby Boomers worked together to bring about change for civil rights and end the Vietnam War. They came together to produce long-lasting change. They were unmatched activists. After the 60s, it dwindled as they moved on with their lives.
We spew hateful words like it’s second nature. We criticize everyone and everything. We are all fighting just to have the last word. We’re not working towards anything. We’re driving everyone apart. Donald Trump or any other politician is never going to be able to make America great. With bureaucracy and political agendas, it will never happen. We have to do it. Why don’t we, as the largest generation, come together and be the change? It is our turn to carry the torch and pick up where the Baby Boomers left off. We have nearly 15M more people than they did. We can follow in their footsteps. Imagine 92M people working together for change. Let’s not scream our opinions at each other. Let’s discuss our views and opinions. We don’t have to agree with each other but let’s understand each other. Let’s hear each other. Let’s be the change.
This crazy world spins around at such a fast pace, it’s amazing what slowing down can do for your soul. It’s also surprising what two women, generations apart can learn from each other if they take the time.
This past weekend, I had one of the best yet simplest days I’ve had in a while. I spent my afternoon outside under the trees hanging out with a 90-year-old woman . Her grandchildren and 34 great-grandchildren know her as Nana. She is exceptionally agile for her age, has beautiful dark hair that is perfectly coiffed and is beautifully dressed. She loves to garden, cook and is still sharp as a tack. She’s involved many groups like “Daughter of the Pioneers.” Her sprawling yard is full of big beautiful trees, gorgeous flowers and expansive “Virginia Crawlers” spread along archways, which she proudly mentioned she brought back from the East. Her yard has a very “secret garden” ambiance. You can see the love and attention she’s poured into it.
I went South to Mount Pleasant with a friend for a small cookout. Nana’s house was beautifully put together. Most of us ate in the living room. I was the first to finish and didn’t see Nana so I stepped outside to find her sitting under the shade trees. We agreed, despite the hot temps, it felt nice to sit under the trees with the breeze. It was peaceful.
She asked what I had done the night before and I told her we went to the Salt Lake City Bee’s game. She recounted how she and her late husband used to love to go to ball games and she still remembers when that stadium was built. “I had my fun times living in the city, so I like the calm here now.” I asked her what it was like to see all of the changes that have happened from the late 20s until now. She recounted working as a sophomore in high school at a factory during WWII and having to catch the midnight train Friday nights to get back home by 7 am. To get back to the city they had to catch the Sunday 7 am train to make it back in time to catch a cab. She talked about all the changes she has seen over the years from transportation to the technology.
I told her how my great-grandpa Dawson used to tell me stories of the changes he’s watched over time. I always loved his story of how he could take my great-grandma on a date to a movie, get a hamburger and a malt before and it all cost him less than 50 cents. He gave me a love for classic cars and jazz music. She told me she also loved jazz music and all types of music, except for that hard rock stuff. She also told me when she lived back East, she’d take her teenage grandson to school. He liked rap music. So she made him a deal, on the way to school she would listen to his rap music, on the way home from school, he had to listen to her music. “I ended up liking some of his rap and he ended up liking some of my music.” What a great lesson for us all, among all of the chaos and fighting. Just meet each other in the middle.
I’ve been very fortunate not only to know my grandparents but also 6 of my great-grandparents, who would be around Nana’s age. Some of my favorite memories are baking with my great-grandma Dawson, fishing with my great-grandpa Dawson and picking strawberries with my great-grandma Scott. At the time, as a child, I didn’t realize the lessons I was learning. I thought we were just having fun. I look back now and reflect on all I’ve learned from each of my grandparents and great-grandparents. My great grandpa used to say, “A person only cusses because they can’t think of anything more intelligent to say.” My generation could undoubtedly take that lesson at large.
I think my generation could take quite a few lessons from The Greatest Generation. Just like Nana this weekend, my great-grandpa was always dressed well regardless of whether he was going out or staying in. He was always willing to lend a hand. There was no reason to sit around and complain about a problem, in his eyes you just jumped in and worked toward a solution. Nana mentioned how she could never have married a man who was nit-picky but she did have a sister who was. “She was just so bossy,” she said. “I looked at her one day and said, ‘what makes you think your way of doing things is any better than mine?” Her sister turned and said she hadn’t thought about it that way. Isn’t it funny how we get so dead-set on our own opinions, we can’t see beyond them.
I asked Nana about her time living on the East coast. She had spent more than 20 years living in Provo, Utah but she also spent more than 20 years living in Virginia and D.C. She recalled moving there after her husband left the 82nd Airborne Division in Ft. Bliss. Once they relocated, he worked on the hill. Her daughter would also end up working on the hill. When referring to her late husband, she smiled and said, “you would have liked him.” She talked about his calm demeanor. He’d always say, “give it twenty-four hours before you say something or make a decision.” What a smart man. “I think that is why they called him up to settle so many disputes on the hill,” she mentioned. “He just had that cool, composed manner.” I asked her what it was like, being so ingrained with the political arena for so many years. “We were always up there working at the White House, volunteering, holding receptions, it was a busy time,” she remembered. “We lived just down the street from the Kennedy’s, who we visited with frequently… and we too, always had visitors.”
While on the topic of politics, I asked Nana what she thought about the current political race. She looked at me and said,”They are just a bunch of monkeys performing on the beltway. There are just no good statesmen anymore.”She nailed it. Her generation had a sense of pride and respect for themselves as well as their community. Future generations have traded in their sense of purpose for their sense of fame and fortune. Our political system is completely broken and it’s embarrassing to watch from both sides. Nana shared her thoughts, “Now my motto is to just take a ticket and watch the show.” Generation Z to The Silent Generation spends most of their time spewing opinions but seldom working toward a viable solution. There is no sense of pride in keeping our country running pristine for the betterment of all anymore. It’s very similar to how The Greatest Generation kept their cars in pristine condition after working so hard for them. I would say they felt the same about their country. Today, we treat our country like we do our cars, we trash them. How sad it must be for those left of The Greatest Generation to watch all of their hard work and ingenuity go down the drain in the hands of the younger generations.
Younger generations always think they know better. We love to argue with anyone older than us and prove them wrong. We’d be better off if we slowed down and sat down with the Nana’s to learn some valuable lessons. “Sometimes it seems like it’s been long, sometimes it feels like it’s flown by and other times it all seems like a dream,” Nana said in regards how fast life is. Before long, we won’t have their example and stories to learn from anymore. From their sense of pride in always dressing well to their sense of country and aide, we can all take note. I encourage my fellow Millennial’s and other younger generations to take a step back and sit under the shade tree with Nana and see what they learn.
Lessons Learned from :
- Slow down and take time before you respond
- Meet in the middle
- Understand there is not only one way to do things and be open
- Appreciate the greatest teachers we may ever have in our beloved Greatest Generation before it is too late
- Come together and work towards betterment rather than tear each other apart
- Take pride in all we do
- Work hard
- Faithful commitment
If we take the lessons and combine it with our knowledge and technology, we just might have a chance to revitalize our country. Let’s get back to taking pride in ourselves, others and our country.